Comments on: Helplessly Hoping

By: Tarheel Rambler

Tarheel Rambler — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 23:42:20 +0000

You are correct, Dawn. I just wish Dad wasn't such a willing, cooperative target.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 00:47:41 +0000

Sorry about your Dad Lee.
As I said, there are always predators waiting for the right person to come along.
It's a sad sad world.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 17:47:41 +0000

Sorry about your Dad Lee.
As I said, there are always predators waiting for the right person to come along.
It's a sad sad world.

By: FerdC

FerdC — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 23:26:21 +0000

Oh, Lee, how very frustrating! Gail's dad does similar stupid things. He has been an alcoholic all his life, and had a disabling stroke several years ago surely related to his drinking and to untreated hypertension which he chose to ignore. So, he doesn't think straight. He falls sucker to many scams that come his way, mainly by regular mail. And, like your dad, you can't tell him what to do.
It really is a difficult thing to legally take control of someone else's finances. And then you have the daily obligation to run TWO households. And it's less than a thankless proposition. You can bet there would be ill feelings and harsh words as your reward. I don't blame you one bit for not wanting to take that on. Neither has Gail, or any of her 3 siblings. He has always ignored advice. He has paid the price and continues to do so.
Beyond your anger, I know there is the sadness that goes with seeing our parents grow old and suffer these indignities. We are truly powerless to change the ravages of time. We are powerless to change the thoughts/words/actions of others. You have put your dad in God's hands, and in my opinion, that is exactly the right thing to do.
Peace to you, brother!

By: meleahrebeccah

meleahrebeccah — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 02:22:38 +0000

Well at least that IS a step in the right direction! Too bad you cant UNDO
what's already been done. So hopefully the financial counselor will help
prevent this from happening again!